Wednesday, December 29, 2010
My Sweet Kaycee girl is Two Months Old today!!!!! She is really starting to smile and visually focus on us more! We had her birthmom over to our home on December 26th for dinner/ Christmas gathering. I never in a million years thought I'd have my adopted child's birth mother to our home-- "OMG she'll know where we live! Ahhhhh!!!" But really it's obviously nothing like that! Many people look at me strange when I tell them she came over and I know what they are thinking cuz heck I thought it too... We had a wonderful time and she is a delight. She was so sweet and brought clothes and a toy for Kaycee. We will see her again in January for Kaycee's Baptism. I expect our visits will decrease after that and slowly meld into our original agreement but I'm fine with how everything is going so far...
One thing I did not expect to feel was "adoptive parent guilt." I never even heard this term until I saw it posted on a friend's Facebook page. I had a bad case of it last week. KBM texted me and told me MTV's 16 and pregnant was doing a show on adoption. I watched it on my computer the next day and it really pulled on my heartstrings. I love KBM so much and my heart aches for her-- my happiness is her sadness and this makes me feel sad. Here's the link to that episode:
16 And Pregnant (Season 2) | Ep. 19 | Ashley
It's a long one but phew it's good to see the other side too. Well that's it for now!
Saturday, December 18, 2010
I seem to post in bulk! Ha ha! I just wanted to share one more thing today. Before Kaycee was born I bought her this book as a baby book. I actually haven't written in it yet which is a good thing because just this week I found these books:
I absolutely love them and bought them for Kaycee! They are great for adopted kids but they don't have to be just for adoption which is why I love them! I saw them in Sam's Club but ended up buying from Amazon. I will be using The Wonder of You for Kaycee's first year baby book!! I'm actually glad it doesn't really go beyond there because I do digital scrap booking for the boys and often forget to go write stuff in their baby books! Who wants to double document anyway??
This is on one side and the other side says:
"Not flesh of my flesh, Nor bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn't grow under my heart - but in it"
Kaycee Jaselle Weber was born on 10.29.10
and lovingly placed in our family 10.31.10
Chris, Kierstin & big brothers Luke & Zack
We included it with our Christmas cards this year! We also had a family letter I made on my Mac but haven't figured out how to put that on here... phooey!
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
We had a wonderful visit with Santa yesterday and got several great pictures! I texted KBM Monday night to see if she wanted to meet us b/c we would in her city (they have the BEST Santa Claus there!!). She replied yes and we had a super meeting! She got to meet Luke this time as she had met Zack last month. She was a big help since I was alone with the kids and the boys were wild!! They were so wound up after seeing Santa!! Anyhow, we talked about Christmas and Kaycee's Baptism in Jan or Feb (I haven't schedule it yet!). I invited her to the Baptism and asked her if she would like to come to our home the day after Christmas for a visit! She was so thrilled she cried! I got choked up myself and feel so good about making this a real Open Adoption. Who would've thought??? NOT ME!!! If you asked me 3 months ago if I thought I'd feel comfortable having our adoptive child's birth mother over to our home I would've said no but I'm so excited about the friendship we are building and I feel totally ok with this. Of course this was all discussed with my husband beforehand and I ran it by the director of our adoption agency who was thrilled about our relationship and the progress toward a fully open adoption! So that's the latest in a nut shell!!