Thursday, July 5, 2012

And God gave us Jenna-- Part 3 of 3

Sorry for the "suspenseful delay!"  It's been such a busy week and I didn't want to rush through this post....

So we get home Wednesday evening-- blessed that our neighbors/friends (Thank you Joy & Glen!) were able to pick up Luke and Zack from camp since we didn't get home til after it closed.  I called a good friend of mine to see if she would be willing to come spend the night at our house and watch the kids the next day because we would need to leave by 6:30 am at the latest and we were NOT going to be late this time around!  My friend Leigh was sooooo wonderful and said she would be happy to help us out (Thank you Leigh!!).

We showed the boys pictures of Jenna and got things a bit more in order for her home coming.  Jenna's birth mom "D" sent me texts that night with pictures of Jenna right after she was born, her sonogram, and D's other two children.  She also sent me some pictures of her pregnant with Jenna.  I told her I wanted to make a book for Jenna all about "D" and her family and had asked if she could send me some pictures.   I was thrilled to have these treasures.  I tried to get some sleep... it was hard though as I was so excited!! 

Thursday morning Chris and I scooted out the door with the boys set up watching "Super Why" and Kaycee still sleeping.  Although I really don't remember what we talked about on our way there, the most amazing, powerful, incredible thing happened about 1  hour into our drive.  My phone "dinged" indicating a text-- it was from "D."  My heart stopped.  And then I read it.  I wasn't sure if I wanted to share this text on our blog because it is so personal but I want you all to know how incredible "D" is-- her text read:

7:09 am
"Good morning, it's almost time!  I just want to say thank you in advance for raising my baby in a wonderful, loving Christian home.  Words can not express my gratitude to not just you and Chris but your sons and daughter, again thank you."

Of  course I start crying.  I knew I'd cry today but thought it wouldn't be til later.  I was in awe of this amazing woman.   My reply was:

" You are making me cry already!  I knew I would today.  Tears of extreme gratitude.  We love you and promise to love Jenna with all our heart.  Our children are sooooooo excited about their new sister.  See you soon.  XOXOXO."

We arrive to the center on time and there is a court reporter, the pregnancy counselor, and the lawyer.  "D" was on her way with a friend.  The lawyer asked us if we had been present for Kaycee's TPR (Termination of Parental Rights) and we said no.  He said he thought it was important for the adoptive parents to be present and witness this. 

We had some time while we waited so talked about his procedures for adoption profile showing.   He said he gives the birth parents all the questionnaires (which are typed out) and asks them to narrow it down by reading them first before he ever shows them pictures of the couples/families.   Once they have it narrowed down some then they are given the three pictures we included.   I found that very interesting-- and neat! 

So "D" shows up with one of her friends and Jenna and gives us a hug and hands Jenna right over to me!  The interview was a hour long and very insightful.  I was so happy to hear exactly how much counseling she and her children had had about the adoption placement and that she was sure she would continue her sessions.  After going to Bethany Christian Services adoptive parents weekend, we always knew we wanted our children's birth parents to be well cared for and supported before and after placement.  Since this placement wasn't with Bethany, the extent that this Pregnancy Center and lawyer had provided counseling was so reassuring.  It was also good for my heart to hear that without any reservation she wanted to place Jenna with us and she had no regrets about her decision. 

After the interview the lawyer asked  "D" what she was going to do for the rest of the day and she replied "Let's go take pictures!"  I was so glad she was still up for it!  She gave me permission to post these pictures of that day.

Then we said goodbye to the counselor and the lawyer and we all (D & her friend and Chris, Jenna and I) drove to the nearby Clinic where Jenna had been seen by a doctor for a "well check" a few weeks before to get copies of her medical records. 
We set a date for our first visit the end of July and I told her to text me anytime she was having difficulty or just needed a picture of Jenna and I would send one as quickly as I could.  I also told her that Kaycee's birthmom said that "D" could call her anytime for support (how cool is that?!)
(**they have connected on the phone since that day and Kaycee's birthmom said they talked like they had been friends forever!!  I'm so grateful for that!)

We drove home with me in the backseat with Jenna (of course) ) and came home to a neat sign in our front yard and very excited brothers!!

On the drive home      

Jenna looks not so sure about these guys but they will be her protectors forever!!
And now we are complete.


  1. Thanks so much for sharing your beautiful story! I loved seeing all the pictures! What a beautiful courageous woman! Congrats, Kristin!

  2. What an amazing story and amazing birthmom! Love your pictures! Thanks for sharing your story!

  3. Thank you so much for sharing. Having only ever completed an international adoption it is very interesting and refreshing to read your adoption journey. Such a beautiful story.

  4. :) I love this!!! Such a wonderful story!!!

  5. What a wonderfully amazing story! I just couldn't read it fast enough. I am so filled with joy for you and to hear how it all happened. When she dinged you in the car, my heart stopped & I held my breath. Oh thank God!!! Then to head that Kaycee's birth mom and D connected and have each other for su

  6. Oops, ran out of space. When I read that D and Kaycee's birth mom connected with each other, well, that just put me over the top. I LOVE how this all came together. God Bless you! You are an amazing lady & I hope to come to the next lunch. Anna Spurgeon

  7. Thanks for sharing your story! We adopted from Russia the same time when you gave up your Russia dreams and moved on(our trip 1 was March 20120; home June 2010). I love your story! Congratulations!

  8. What a fantastic story! So happy that D and Kaycee's Birthmother were able to share a connection. It seems like D is already getting the support she needs. So happy for all of you!

  9. I can't believe I am just seeing this, how did I miss this when you posted last week?! I'm so excited for you, tears are streaming down my face. She is absolutely gorgeous! I'm so happy your family is complete! Congrats!

  10. Wow. That is so cool! I have never read this story, only known what you text me...amazing! It is pretty cool to witness the TPR proceedings. BCS doesn't allow that for privacy reasons, obviously since full name disclosures are given, etc. The state of TN doesn't even allow the BCS workers to be present though, the BM's sign in closed chambers with a judge and no worker or friends allowed. Kinda sad in my opinion. :( Can't wait to meet Jenna in November!!! :)